One of the hardest part with this whole school business is figuring out how to deal with it. I’ve been on the receiving end of that sort of thing but it was at an older age so I know how it affected me later in life. I know people who were victimized like that early on and I’ve seen how it affected them as well. But in both (if not all) cases the sage counsel of the Parents is always “Fight Back” or “Look Tough so that they’ll leave you alone.”<\/p>\n
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Fact is that advice stank. A kid told to fight back usually wound up beat up and in trouble for fighting. A kid told to “look tough” just looked like a target. There will always be those people who want to hurt others for fun but dealing with them can’t always be a fist for a fist, a tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye?especially if they’re stronger, meaner and faster.<\/p>\n
Early on I resolved to have my kids try to figure out other solutions so much so that I’ve argued with family based on my convictions that the way of violence isn’t the answer (ironic: arguing about not-fighting ::sigh::). Surely that sort of thing has its place but it shouldn’t be the common answer.<\/p>\n
That’s why I?ve been hesitant in enrolling him in a martial arts program (that an the absurd overemphasis on Eastern mysticism). I mean, sure they’ll teach him focus and self-defense but will they teach him self-control and wisdom? Two things that can only be taught by dedication and life?<\/p>\n
So here I go again, warning my family not to give unwarranted and often unhelpful advice. I would like my children to be armed with rightness instead of weapons.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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